Anonymous asked: I need some advice: There's this girl that I think is really awesome. To me she is perfect in every way. I mean when I see her my heart beats just a little bit faster anyway. I went to talk to her but she always avoids me. I ended up getting a hold of one of he friends and she said it's because she thinks she is too fat. And I hate that because I love her the way she is. How do you suggest I approach her?

Hey Anon,

It’s too bad to hear that she feels this way about herself. Society’s standards on the female appearance is set at such a ridiculous, unrealistic level. This causes a lot of girls to feel insecure about their image, shape, weight, and so on even though they look perfectly fine. To you, she may seem perfect but to be honest every girl will have her insecurities or thoughts on what she can improve about her appearance. 

How I suggest you approach her is maybe first hang out in a group setting and try to make some conversation with her there. When you get the feeling that she seems comfortable around you then you can try to talk to her alone be it at school/text/or however. Some girls will get uncomfortable if you come on too strong so try not to do that. Once you guys build some friendship then you can tell her how you feel about her and how you think she’s perfect. She’ll love that especially if she’s already comfortable around you as a friend beforehand. Hope this helps. Good luck!